SBF: Is there anything that you’re absolutely certain about?
Warsan: [Long pause] – I’m certain that everyone, everyone, everyone, everyone, absolutely everyone is deserving of love. I truly believe that love is for everybody, and I think it would just fucking make everything so much more amazing if everybody was loved in the way that they deserve to be loved, or the way that they need to be loved, and then maybe would be more loving towards one another and to ourselves, as well. So I was speaking to a mate of mine last night about how to move on from things and how to not be bitter and not let past experiences hinder you or fill you with fear. And I was just thinking about the wounds that sometimes love causes or a lack of love causes. It’s only love that can heal that. When love fucks you up, and love makes you feel like you just wanna die, what else is it that can make you feel better but more love?
SBF: This is true.
Warsan: I couldn’t think of anything else. Who says that love has to be from another person? Even when you’re sitting in the center of your own solitude, and you’re by yourself, are you not loving yourself? Isn’t it love that you’re using to heal yourself? Definitely not talking about being dependent on another human being all the time and just continuously looking for love in this desperate way, absolutely not. But just love. And it doesn’t have to be romantic love! It doesn’t even have to be from anybody outside of yourself. ❞